What Could Be Wrong With My Kid And How I Fix It?

As moms and pops raising our own children, there's doubtlessly going to be hard phases when our children appear to be going thru a tricky time, having issues coping at college or their emotional nature a little more sensitive than normal. They maybe finding it tough to make mates. Their behaviour might be exhausting to the point of disappointment for a while.

Usually, our children will grow out of it and move on to the following stage of their life.

But what if this phase continues? Jobs are becoming way too much of a struggle and our child complains of being beat all the time, not having the ability to keep up in the same way as their peers and quite honestly finding it more difficult than perhaps it must be to cope in school/and/or home. ADHD, ADD, dyslexia and various other labels might have been suggested and your kids “phase” is now becoming a clear problem and is making their world harder than it should be. This is when we need to look beyond thinking that it could be just a phase in their development and ask ourselves is there something else going on?

There are several factors that make a contribution to a child having the ability to move well, talk fluently, play and develop the talents mandatory for every day academic, and socialization. Without getting too far into the structure and function of the neuro development system they include:

MOVEMENT & Developmental MILESTONES

As babies we've all got a developmental movement sequence that we follow, this maps neurological pathway’s in the brain. The majority of it happens thru natural movements and play. First we learn how to roll, then to creep on our tummies, then to rock on hands and knees, then to creep, and then we stand up, gain our balance and learn to walk. All of the time we are progressing thru important development stages, we are setting the construction blocks in place for learning readiness. We are building up strength and co-ordination, our eyes learn to focus and we have started to sound correct of our physical world.

SENSORY INTEGRATION

Both hyper and hypo sensitiveness cause irregular functions in smell, taste, tactility, vision, hearing and can confuse the appreciation of where ones private body is in space.

It is really important to try and understand the attentional concerns of the children we are engaging, as we each have different priorities based upon our own sensory perception of a situation. A sensitive child may simply be able to target the system/s that's taking over their central nervous system. If the sensory system has not integrated in a fully developed fashion it'll be most unlikely to target express activities and block out unwished-for background noise, smells, touches and other stimuli. The foundations of the senses have to be rock solid for the higher sensory systems to operate effectively so making us socially, and emotionally more at ease and able to deal with tasks like reading, writing, and maths.

Spotting indicators of a feeble or juvenile neurological system:

• Disorganized and/or poor organizational abilities
• Extraordinary mood changes
• Without knowing left from right
• Clumsiness
• Always in motion
• Fatigue
• Issues balancing
• Simply disorientated
• Poor sitting position
• Auto illness
• Mirror writing
• The left out kid
• Shoes on the wrong feet
• Dislike of noisy or sudden loud noises
• Avoidance of crowded places or team sports

Approaching and conquering theses problems

Part of the puzzle is that a child can be fighting for a number of reasons. We want to consider all areas that may be having an effect on or have affected the kid through their life, such as: birth, health factors, nourishment, allergies and intolerances, emotional difficulties, stress, environmental environment, reflex integration, sensory sensitivities and development landmarks.

We need to remember to target the factors behind the Problems not the symptoms.

So where do we go from here?You will have many choices to make and it can be hard to know quite what to do to achieve the best result. It's important to find the right professional at the appropriate time. One that can guide you with a holistic viewpoint and refer you to other pros should they see this as more beneficial.

Responding to a test before you commit to any care could be a great way for both parents and therapists to make a good start. A more clear understanding and information can start to flow from there on. You can also talk to others that may have gone thru, or are going through similar issues that perhaps can offer some advice. Find parent support groups that you can join and don't be frightened to ask. About things you are confusing of. Search sites, read topical material for information and teach yourself about what maybe going on with your youngster. Be prepared that there might not be a “quick fix” as neurological issues that have manifested over a period of time will also take time to strengthen and restore balance. Also, always remember, that so as to treat, we must look at the kid as a whole.

How can I help my child?

• Decide on the approach that most nearly fits your kid and family circumstances and make a commitment to one approach at one point.
• Do not mix'n'match cures unless you have been given the OK by the pro you are seeing. This may overload the kid.
• Explain to your kid what you are doing and what you have found out so that any fear or blame of failure can be assuaged from your child.
• Inspire your youngster's gifted areas so they have recognition of special achievement and use positive words of support.
• Give your kid a chance to relax after a tough day at college. It's no different from us being at work all day.
• Help them to get involved in activities they enjoy and nurture the areas they're naturally drawn toward.

By gauging, understanding a child and taking a worldwide point of view we are able to get to the main cause of a child’s issues, identify weak and immature areas and start to strengthen those neurological systems that are striving to cope. In doing so we are giving the child the possibility to reach their actual potential, bolstering them from the inside out.

Rachael Sherry is a mom, NLP specialist and freelance writer specializing in relationship advice.